State of the Me
Dec. 30th, 2018 01:10 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
Christmas is just about done here. My family being Catholic and holding mostly Quebec customs, the new year tends to be the end of most of the festivities. (And Sherlock Holmes's birthday ends the rest.) So now I can get away with curling up in my room and trying not to scream.
At least I'm home alone starting tomorrow -- everyone in the family was on vacation and thus in the house all week, so I couldn't even listen to my own music except with headphones on. All I could listen to was country Christmas from Christmas Eve until today. But I could play instruments around other people, provided I was careful not to sing any of the songs that have a single iota of non-Christian energy in them. Let's just say I got quite a bit of instrumental practice. And I got a bodhran from my parents, so that's an upside. My mom tends to go all-out for Christmas, so I have new violin strings and a fife as well. I got Amazon and Barnes and Noble money from the siblings, all of which has now been spent on quite the variety of things (American Gods, blank sheet music notebook, Rise Up Singing, and the NESFA hymnal off BN and their Marketplace, gig bag and guitar stand off Amazon).
Just about ready to scream at the misgendering, of course. My aunt gave me $50 for my birthday and I still haven't touched it, so I'm starting to think I might just buy a binder with some of that. My parents wouldn't take it away or destroy it purposefully, so at least there's that, but still. It was on my Christmas list, right below the bodhran in priorities and significantly higher than the fife or strings. I have almost $30 on my Paypal and I'm considering just using that instead. If I just transferred the $50 there, of course, I could get an extra binder off GC2B. Now that's tempting, provided I can figure out how to use Paypal in the first place.
Already looking forward to the prospect of not being here starting in a couple of weeks, of course. Doesn't look like I'll be able to get to Boskone since it costs so much to get into Boston via the commuter rail, but at least I know it's happening and I can start saving up for future years. And I'll probably spend the weekend writing a bunch of stuff anyway.
(On an unrelated note, is it normal for parents to refuse to allow an adult child to have a lock on their bedroom door? Because it's only just occurred to me how weird it might be that I'm not allowed to have a lock on my bedroom door. They have a lock on theirs.)
At least I'm home alone starting tomorrow -- everyone in the family was on vacation and thus in the house all week, so I couldn't even listen to my own music except with headphones on. All I could listen to was country Christmas from Christmas Eve until today. But I could play instruments around other people, provided I was careful not to sing any of the songs that have a single iota of non-Christian energy in them. Let's just say I got quite a bit of instrumental practice. And I got a bodhran from my parents, so that's an upside. My mom tends to go all-out for Christmas, so I have new violin strings and a fife as well. I got Amazon and Barnes and Noble money from the siblings, all of which has now been spent on quite the variety of things (American Gods, blank sheet music notebook, Rise Up Singing, and the NESFA hymnal off BN and their Marketplace, gig bag and guitar stand off Amazon).
Just about ready to scream at the misgendering, of course. My aunt gave me $50 for my birthday and I still haven't touched it, so I'm starting to think I might just buy a binder with some of that. My parents wouldn't take it away or destroy it purposefully, so at least there's that, but still. It was on my Christmas list, right below the bodhran in priorities and significantly higher than the fife or strings. I have almost $30 on my Paypal and I'm considering just using that instead. If I just transferred the $50 there, of course, I could get an extra binder off GC2B. Now that's tempting, provided I can figure out how to use Paypal in the first place.
Already looking forward to the prospect of not being here starting in a couple of weeks, of course. Doesn't look like I'll be able to get to Boskone since it costs so much to get into Boston via the commuter rail, but at least I know it's happening and I can start saving up for future years. And I'll probably spend the weekend writing a bunch of stuff anyway.
(On an unrelated note, is it normal for parents to refuse to allow an adult child to have a lock on their bedroom door? Because it's only just occurred to me how weird it might be that I'm not allowed to have a lock on my bedroom door. They have a lock on theirs.)
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Date: 2018-12-30 07:42 pm (UTC)I do diatonic accordeon, mandolin, mandola, Appalachain dulcimer and whistles. :o)
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Date: 2018-12-30 07:52 pm (UTC)My brother has a banjo, and my sister played flute for the longest time, so that's somewhere upstairs and I could steal it if I wanted. But I've got a fiddle, keyboard, guitar (and my dad's newly repaired 12-string if I want it) and now a fife and bodhran. I have my eye out for an accordion and mandolin if I can get them, and I wouldn't say no to a lap harp.
What is it about giving a musician a new instrument that makes us go "Ooh, shiny! Gimme a week and I'll be able to play," anyway?
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Date: 2018-12-30 09:56 pm (UTC)If it has keys, buttons or strings, or you can blow through it, I'll surely give it a go! :o)
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Date: 2018-12-30 10:10 pm (UTC)...and I just laughed for a good thirty seconds.
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Date: 2018-12-30 09:19 pm (UTC)How likely are they to flip if you just get one put on anyway?
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Date: 2018-12-30 09:31 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2018-12-31 12:32 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2018-12-31 03:09 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2018-12-31 03:37 am (UTC)Can you get out on your own enough to start a bank account elsewhere? One they don't know about? That'd be a good start towards being able to get out of there.
If you've got a friend nearby you trust, you might use their address as a mailing address, so you don't have to worry about anything showing up in the mail from the other account. Do your parents open or otherwise monitor your mail, too?
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Date: 2018-12-31 03:46 am (UTC)So far, no opening of mail, but yes to monitoring. And that's more my dad, which makes that iffier.
...okay, brain is saying enough of this for tonight. Gonna have to take a few hours to process that this isn't normal. Thanks again.
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Date: 2018-12-31 03:49 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2019-01-04 11:22 pm (UTC)I'm 46 years old, and the way siblings all had locks installed and you are "banned" from such makes me think scapegoat family dynamics towards you. Either parent with an obvious to you narcissist personality disorder?
Last but not least: I have an agender, asexual, aromantic teen here that I have changed the name I use to what they've requested, and pronouns normally except under major stresses for me. I have been using the new name since summer 2017, and in between I needed open heart surgery to repair heart defects. If I could change under circumstances where anoxia was cutting off my brain functioning, your relatives can BITE ME for not changing themselves.
Puck, we have cousins in Boston who have accepted teen just as well. I can talk to the one who's a little older than I with two just out of BU who's progressive enough to shush her more conservative sister when needed. You need an extension for your escape plan? I would get her information to give to you, and NOT give up what limited information I could get on you. I'm a library science, returning adult college student and privacy matters.
This cousin would most likely HAPPILY extract you from relatives and claim you're an old friend of their kids. ;-)
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Date: 2019-01-05 12:29 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2018-12-31 02:10 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2018-12-31 03:17 am (UTC)I'm up at UMass Lowell most of the time, and there's a local bus that runs from campus right to the Lowell Commuter Rail station. I've considered it before, but it's just really expensive for how difficult the cost is.
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