State of the Me

[jtthomas]

Christmas is just about done here. My family being Catholic and holding mostly Quebec customs, the new year tends to be the end of most of the festivities. (And Sherlock Holmes's birthday ends the rest.) So now I can get away with curling up in my room and trying not to scream. 

At least I'm home alone starting tomorrow -- everyone in the family was on vacation and thus in the house all week, so I couldn't even listen to my own music except with headphones on. All I could listen to was country Christmas from Christmas Eve until today. But I could play instruments around other people, provided I was careful not to sing any of the songs that have a single iota of non-Christian energy in them. Let's just say I got quite a bit of instrumental practice. And I got a bodhran from my parents, so that's an upside. My mom tends to go all-out for Christmas, so I have new violin strings and a fife as well. I got Amazon and Barnes and Noble money from the siblings, all of which has now been spent on quite the variety of things (American Gods, blank sheet music notebook, Rise Up Singing, and the NESFA hymnal off BN and their Marketplace, gig bag and guitar stand off Amazon).

Just about ready to scream at the misgendering, of course. My aunt gave me $50 for my birthday and I still haven't touched it, so I'm starting to think I might just buy a binder with some of that. My parents wouldn't take it away or destroy it purposefully, so at least there's that, but still. It was on my Christmas list, right below the bodhran in priorities and significantly higher than the fife or strings. I have almost $30 on my Paypal and I'm considering just using that instead. If I just transferred the $50 there, of course, I could get an extra binder off GC2B. Now that's tempting, provided I can figure out how to use Paypal in the first place.

Already looking forward to the prospect of not being here starting in a couple of weeks, of course. Doesn't look like I'll be able to get to Boskone since it costs so much to get into Boston via the commuter rail, but at least I know it's happening and I can start saving up for future years. And I'll probably spend the weekend writing a bunch of stuff anyway.

(On an unrelated note, is it normal for parents to refuse to allow an adult child to have a lock on their bedroom door? Because it's only just occurred to me how weird it might be that I'm not allowed to have a lock on my bedroom door. They have a lock on theirs.)

Comments

[ayebydan]

That is horrendously behaviour on their part. :(

[kellan_the_tabby]

Yeah, this is WAY beyond the pale. Also there are ways for your mom to put money into your account without her being able to find out what you're doing with it -- the fact that she CAN monitor your account, & apparently DOES so, is VERY VERY uncool.

[jtthomas]

Yeah, that's what I was kind of suspicious might be the case. I knew there were other ways -- I was right there when she rejected any other way out of hand. Thanks for the outsider view.

[kellan_the_tabby]

But of course!

Can you get out on your own enough to start a bank account elsewhere? One they don't know about? That'd be a good start towards being able to get out of there.

If you've got a friend nearby you trust, you might use their address as a mailing address, so you don't have to worry about anything showing up in the mail from the other account. Do your parents open or otherwise monitor your mail, too?

[jtthomas]

Both of my accounts are under my mom's name as well, one of which is a savings account at a local bank which is too far to walk to and I can't drive. That account has by far the most and I'm not allowed to touch it. The other is your run-of-the-mill Bank of America thing. I'll probably set up another account there once I have a campus job either this summer or this fall, however it happens, and just slowly get funds out of the shared one if she doesn't realize.

So far, no opening of mail, but yes to monitoring. And that's more my dad, which makes that iffier.

...okay, brain is saying enough of this for tonight. Gonna have to take a few hours to process that this isn't normal. Thanks again.

[kellan_the_tabby]

*nodnodNODnods* by all means, yeah, this kind of thing you really need to sit with some. Which doesn't make the process pleasant, but well. :P :/ Go do your deep breathing or your flailing or however it is you deal with this sort of thing, & gimme a holler if you'd like someone to talk to.